I think i have dancing monkey syndrome, i am not progressing my game at all. …
however I saw a post from an instructor and it seems to be a good fix for this.
Aims to fix this issue:
I need to fix Attraction; Attraction is to demonstrate that you want her but you don’t need her. Being needy is not good. That’s why the attraction material works to demonstrate that mindset.
If you’re comfortable towards her that means you’re confident around her which is sub-communicate you’re already around hot women and know how to deal with them. Pre-selection.
Showing that you’re comfortable around her (if she is hot), will sub-communicate confidence which will demonstrate pre-selection. Pre-selection because she will put you in the same category as guys who can deal with girls of her standard as you’re not phase by her.
the inner game here is not to be affected by others and your thoughts are strong and not weak. Your thoughts should be she’d want to fuck you.
A few points to remember about Attraction material:
- Attraction material is the pepper and not the steak
- Don’t make teasing the main point of interaction and pushing and pushing pushing.
- Attraction should be fun, fun, normal, fun, sexual, fun, normal, normal, fun, sexual, fun, normal, normal, sexual, fun, normal and so on.
- Be Sexual
- Convey strong masculinity and ownership of your sexuality.
- Proximity and body language
- You don’t know her yet
- you’re not that interested in her.
- Her looks just got her foot in the door
Application of being social
Go out tonight and feel that you own the venue and act that you do. You’ll give that vibe of confidence, you have to fake it until you make it. Basically this ties up to my theory of warming up the venue by being social. this gives your brain to opportunity to warmup the social nodes to allow you to talk.
Find a few key transitions that you can use. What are transitions?
basically starting new threads the following ways are to transition:
– Cold Read
He: you look very tall, how do you feel to be the king of the midgets? *while pointing to the other shorter people*
Also a good way to go about it is @OMG, x…..@
Just keep doing trigger words
Best exercise here is to take every question and reframing it to statements? basically do you remember the things you want to get to know from the girl? well try to rephrase them to statements:
Turn your questions into statements
What do you do for a living?
you look like a stripper or an accountant, i can’t tell which one.
you look like a gangsta or lawyer, i can’t tell which one
you look like you sell drugs or lawyer, i can’t tell which?
you look like you are either stay at home mum or fashion designer, i can’t tell which one.
Where are you from?
you’ve got an accent, where is that from?
You’ve got a distinct style you are not from London are you?
You look very polite you must be African?
You seem very polite you must be African?
You’ve got this aura are you an america hippie?
OmG, its so great that i’ve found someone from Nigeria
After handshake wow crazy handshake, where did you learn that from?
what is your passion and dream?
hey you look like you don’t belong here, you seem elsewhere
you’re probably a teacher you’ve got the “save the world vibe about you”
You seem like you’re on a mission of some sort, you’re letting of this vibe of i need to be successful
I can tell that you’re a very passionate person on the way you set yourself to others, your style and stance. You must be very passionate or creative when you do something. I bet you’re working on something at the moment.
Are you adventurous?
Hey I couldn’t stop noticing you’ve got a good stance, shows you’ve got confidence, are the type of girl who’s outgoing?
You look bored, I bet you’re as fucking crazy and hyperactive as I am! It must itch you to sit still?
I bet you’re itching to do something crazy and adventurous
Are you healthy?
Hi my name is kaps handshake…wow! You’ve got strong handshake for a girl do you do judo or any sports?
Omg check those guns are you a marathon runner or judo warrior?
Check those arms, are you into the military or a boxer!
Are you getting hyper again.??….because you’re really cute when you’re hyper
Are you studying?
Hey you look like some serious bookworm, how many books can you eat in a week? I mean read!!!
Wow you’ve got dead serious strong eye contact I bet you watch a lot of video games or TV.
Do you travel?
You’ve got this vibe about you, you seem you have travelled a lot of places or know a lot of people, I just cant tell.
Hey you’ve got this accent, I really love people who love to travel it shows that they have a lot of cultural knowledge, have you travelled much?
Wow it looks like you’ve got a tan, have you been anywhere recently?
Here a disqualifier is a good technique to demonstrate that you’re not hitting on her and you chose not to be interested in her, it should be positive and that you’re not disqualifying her because of anything bad about her, that qualification in its sense if you IOD on something you don’t like, demonstrates boundaries.
It shows :
- you’re not easy
- shows your not hitting on her
- demonstrates value sub-consciously
You and I are not going to get along.
Not buying her drinks and not giving in to her tests and the such when she asks early on in the conversation.
- 1. she observes it
- 2. she learns of it from a trusted personal source, like a friend
- a. she sees a picture of me with the owner of restaurant
- 3. She learns of it from a neutral source
- a. She sees a picture of me with the owner of the restaurant
- 4. She learns of it from a source that is biaised to me, like my friend.
- a. My friends tells her that I am friends with the owner of the restaurant
- 5. I tell her
- a. I tell her that I am friends with the owner of the restaurant
Oh shit moments
Some statements that you can use when you can’t think of anything:
- Why do you hate jesus?
- Are you racist
- Is that a threat?
- Give me your purse!…yes that’s right, that’s what we do, I steal money off small girls
- So basically you’re trying to ruin my life (marriage/divorce role-play)
- shoulders back
- chin up
- smile on your face (shit eating grin as though you know something they don’t)
- don’t ever face the girl until she faces you
- include takeaway